phonetics Posted August 30, 2010 Share Posted August 30, 2010 Moved in to a flat signed a lease for a year , had a person move in with me,, things were fine for two weeks no issues what so ever... saw flat mate on a friday she was all good happy as... asked me to do the dishes,, I sed yup...there were only like 5 actual dishes most of them hers... fell asleep on the friday , had an early morning shoot on the sat didnt do them, wrapped from shoot got home did the dishes chilled out , saw flatmate sed whats up she didnt talk to me... thought "well thats weird?" kept doing my own thing... ignored it.. Next day saw flatmate sed hi she just waled out ignored me... later that night saw her again aske d whats up? didnt talk to me and went straight to her room... hmmm weird i thought,, left it saw her the next day still not talking to me... later that night I asked her what was up to which she screamed at me and told me to fuck off... I left it,,, a few hours later knocked on her door asked if we could talk she ddint reply left it , the next day I saw her in the morning asked again what was up? apoligised for not washing dishes she lost it told me to fuck off, I asked what was wrong she sed i didnt deserve to know? I aske d again she fully stood there with her hands in her ears going "lalalalalala: so to not hear me, and then told me again to fuck off.. I was like WTF? she then stomped thru the house and screamed at me that she is moving out I was like ok? she then went on to say in a very manic kinda way that she didnt wanna hear my voice or my music or see me. and that she was going to stay at some other place? Im standing there like Eh? she then left didnt hear from her for 3 days until I recived a call from her saying that she would move out today in that call she said that I was not allowed to be in the house or listening to music or making any noise when she moved out I was like "um what ever its my house and can I have a reason why u are moving out" to which she screamed at me down the phone and hung up. The next morning she came over at like 7am i had locked the daedbolt before I went to bed the previous evening cause I didnt think she was coming home.. she kicked screamed and yelled and bashed on the door for 15 minutes waking up the neighbourhood I opened the door and she screamed at me I was like wtf ... I didnt see her for a couple o days until today when she moved out she screamed at me for a good ten minutes when she saw me as I was making my way to the toilet , she slammed doors broke plates and generally lost it WTF! im so confused no reason why she turned no reason to turn except me not washing the dishes girls... Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Taiko Posted August 30, 2010 Share Posted August 30, 2010 Moved in to a flat signed a lease for a year , had a person move in with me,, things were fine for two weeks no issues what so ever... saw flat mate on a friday she was all good happy as... asked me to do the dishes,, I sed yup...there were only like 5 actual dishes most of them hers... fell asleep on the friday , had an early morning shoot on the sat didnt do them, wrapped from shoot got home did the dishes chilled out , saw flatmate sed whats up she didnt talk to me... thought "well thats weird?" kept doing my own thing... ignored it.. Next day saw flatmate sed hi she just waled out ignored me... later that night saw her again aske d whats up? didnt talk to me and went straight to her room... hmmm weird i thought,, left it saw her the next day still not talking to me... later that night I asked her what was up to which she screamed at me and told me to fuck off... I left it,,, a few hours later knocked on her door asked if we could talk she ddint reply left it , the next day I saw her in the morning asked again what was up? apoligised for not washing dishes she lost it told me to fuck off, I asked what was wrong she sed i didnt deserve to know? I aske d again she fully stood there with her hands in her ears going "lalalalalala: so to not hear me, and then told me again to fuck off.. I was like WTF? she then stomped thru the house and screamed at me that she is moving out I was like ok? she then went on to say in a very manic kinda way that she didnt wanna hear my voice or my music or see me. and that she was going to stay at some other place? Im standing there like Eh? she then left didnt hear from her for 3 days until I recived a call from her saying that she would move out today in that call she said that I was not allowed to be in the house or listening to music or making any noise when she moved out I was like "um what ever its my house and can I have a reason why u are moving out" to which she screamed at me down the phone and hung up. The next morning she came over at like 7am i had locked the daedbolt before I went to bed the previous evening cause I didnt think she was coming home.. she kicked screamed and yelled and bashed on the door for 15 minutes waking up the neighbourhood I opened the door and she screamed at me I was like wtf ... I didnt see her for a couple o days until today when she moved out she screamed at me for a good ten minutes when she saw me as I was making my way to the toilet , she slammed doors broke plates and generally lost it WTF! im so confused no reason why she turned no reason to turn except me not washing the dishes girls... Pretty epic, bro. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Dr Awesome Posted August 30, 2010 Share Posted August 30, 2010 Sounds like you accidentally got married. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
thr339z Posted August 30, 2010 Share Posted August 30, 2010 It was completely fucked up man..... Oh well thank christ she has gone ... and I can relax and wait til me new flatty moves in... Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
mike Posted September 24, 2010 Share Posted September 24, 2010 Been made redundant, last day of work is technically end of October... Anyone got a job? Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Nato Posted September 24, 2010 Share Posted September 24, 2010 Been made redundant, last day of work is technically end of October... Anyone got a job? Ah crap. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
penco Posted September 24, 2010 Share Posted September 24, 2010 Been made redundant, last day of work is technically end of October... Anyone got a job? fuck, sorry to hear that bud! feels bad mang Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Merge Posted September 24, 2010 Share Posted September 24, 2010 Been made redundant, last day of work is technically end of October... Anyone got a job? replaced by a computer? but seriously, thats sucks dude. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Taiko Posted September 24, 2010 Share Posted September 24, 2010 Feeling for your man. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Pakage Posted September 24, 2010 Author Share Posted September 24, 2010 Feeling for your man. mike's got a boyfriend? Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Taiko Posted September 24, 2010 Share Posted September 24, 2010 Feeling for you man. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
mike Posted September 24, 2010 Share Posted September 24, 2010 I'll take cash, but leave your hands to yourselves, guys Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Dr Awesome Posted September 28, 2010 Share Posted September 28, 2010 > Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
dr_weazel Posted October 10, 2010 Share Posted October 10, 2010 FUCK YOU COMEDY CENTRAL!!! Why the fuck did you drop The Daily Show and The Colbert Report?!?!?!? ARGH! The only reasons to watch your channel and you axed them for that Gruen Transfer crap? WTF?!? Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
EuphoricMilk Posted October 10, 2010 Share Posted October 10, 2010 FUCK YOU COMEDY CENTRAL!!! Why the fuck did you drop The Daily Show and The Colbert Report?!?!?!? ARGH! The only reasons to watch your channel and you axed them for that Gruen Transfer crap? WTF?!? Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
dave dub Posted October 11, 2010 Share Posted October 11, 2010 need to get this out.. broke up with my girlfriend of 9 n a half months on the weekend. first long-term relationship i've had. it was the hardest thing i've had to do for a long time. she has bipolar which has meant we argued a lot in our relationship. her condition also worsens if she doesn't take her meds or takes pills etc. up until two months ago, we were going really strong, she was detoxing, taking medication, and trying to get better. she's now back into partying and getting wasted (dropping like 4 or 5 beans a night). now she has no income - shes on the sickness bene and i have had to support her with money pretty much every week since she started taking shit again. the last three weeks have been absolute hell. i've been really depressed/stressed/anxious and borderline insane trying to cope with the arguments that spring up pretty much twice a week (the last week and a half it was everyday). i've also been close to suicidal too. my best mate and my family have been there for me through all the arguments i have had with Alex. she however, does not have a family and is outcasted or has isolated herself from her friends. I have pretty much been the person that has kept her sane recently - yet i have been treated like absolute scum by her when she has become depressed and angry. recently i had been contemplating breaking up with her due to not only the stresses of fighting but the hurt of hearing someone you care about abuse the shit out of you. i asked my best mate for advice.. he encouraged me to break up with her because of the state of my relationship with her. so i did. i told her how i felt like i was being treated etc and how i feared for my health. at first she was understanding, but after making it pretty clear that i was really serious about moving back to my parents and taking a break, she flipped. i moved out of the flat i was living in with her and in doing so i've left her in a pretty shit position. she never paid rent (as i earnt a bit more than her and was getting help from my parents for a while) and a lot of the time i have been helping her out with bills and food expenses. i know i have left her in worst possible state and at a time when her mental health is not too flash either. however, it was getting to the point where i had to leave for my own health and for her to wake up and realise that she needs to get better and do it on her own. i do really care about this girl - she helped me gain a lot of my old self back when i first met her.. as well as that i feel guilty as i know i was the only person who didnt judge her for who she was and feel like i have betrayed her in breaking all of the promises i've made to her. basically the last few days have been fucking upsetting. i've shed a lot of tears and felt like i have lost a part of me. the reality is that i did need to break up with her. she did not handle coming home to finding everything moved out too well.. she sent me extremely abusive texts that were really fucked up.. there are so many things that i want to do with my life that she wouldnt let me do for whatever reason and i guess i cant be with someone who discourages my goals or ambitions. the worst part of this whole saga is that i fear for here well-being and health - being someone so unstable who is suicidal at times. i also fear that she will screw my ex-flatties over and not pay rent or bills. which really isn't fair on them. im really quite 50 50 on the whole thing - at times i feel really relieved but other times i just feel so low and guilty. i guess i just wanted to get this all out cos it's quite a stressful and emotional thing to go through and i just don't know if i'm doing the right thing? //emo rant Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Nato Posted October 11, 2010 Share Posted October 11, 2010 need to get this out.. broke up with my girlfriend of 9 n a half months on the weekend. first long-term relationship i've had. it was the hardest thing i've had to do for a long time. she has bipolar which has meant we argued a lot in our relationship. her condition also worsens if she doesn't take her meds or takes pills etc. up until two months ago, we were going really strong, she was detoxing, taking medication, and trying to get better. she's now back into partying and getting wasted (dropping like 4 or 5 beans a night). now she has no income - shes on the sickness bene and i have had to support her with money pretty much every week since she started taking shit again. the last three weeks have been absolute hell. i've been really depressed/stressed/anxious and borderline insane trying to cope with the arguments that spring up pretty much twice a week (the last week and a half it was everyday). i've also been close to suicidal too. my best mate and my family have been there for me through all the arguments i have had with Alex. she however, does not have a family and is outcasted or has isolated herself from her friends. I have pretty much been the person that has kept her sane recently - yet i have been treated like absolute scum by her when she has become depressed and angry. recently i had been contemplating breaking up with her due to not only the stresses of fighting but the hurt of hearing someone you care about abuse the shit out of you. i asked my best mate for advice.. he encouraged me to break up with her because of the state of my relationship with her. so i did. i told her how i felt like i was being treated etc and how i feared for my health. at first she was understanding, but after making it pretty clear that i was really serious about moving back to my parents and taking a break, she flipped. i moved out of the flat i was living in with her and in doing so i've left her in a pretty shit position. she never paid rent (as i earnt a bit more than her and was getting help from my parents for a while) and a lot of the time i have been helping her out with bills and food expenses. i know i have left her in worst possible state and at a time when her mental health is not too flash either. however, it was getting to the point where i had to leave for my own health and for her to wake up and realise that she needs to get better and do it on her own. i do really care about this girl - she helped me gain a lot of my old self back when i first met her.. as well as that i feel guilty as i know i was the only person who didnt judge her for who she was and feel like i have betrayed her in breaking all of the promises i've made to her. basically the last few days have been fucking upsetting. i've shed a lot of tears and felt like i have lost a part of me. the reality is that i did need to break up with her. she did not handle coming home to finding everything moved out too well.. she sent me extremely abusive texts that were really fucked up.. there are so many things that i want to do with my life that she wouldnt let me do for whatever reason and i guess i cant be with someone who discourages my goals or ambitions. the worst part of this whole saga is that i fear for here well-being and health - being someone so unstable who is suicidal at times. i also fear that she will screw my ex-flatties over and not pay rent or bills. which really isn't fair on them. im really quite 50 50 on the whole thing - at times i feel really relieved but other times i just feel so low and guilty. i guess i just wanted to get this all out cos it's quite a stressful and emotional thing to go through and i just don't know if i'm doing the right thing? //emo rant You feel relieved because it was the right thing to do. You feel guilty because you care about her and have a conscience. I think you're feeling exactly how you should at this point. Can't really offer any advice other than right now just take care of yourself. She needs help but I'm not sure you are the one who should be giving it to her. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Dr Awesome Posted October 11, 2010 Share Posted October 11, 2010 Dude... That's rough man. Sounds like you did the right thing, sometimes you gotta be cruel to be kind. If you fear for her well being I'd get in touch with the DHB or some other sort of (mental) health professional. I think there's various free phones for organisations that'll reach out to people in her circumstance and offer a hand. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Known One Posted October 11, 2010 Share Posted October 11, 2010 Props for wearing your heart on your sleeve. Ranting in your situation is certainly called for. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
jagermikester Posted October 11, 2010 Share Posted October 11, 2010 Hey bro, I found myself in pretty much the same situation a few years back. You definitely made the right move as all signs point towards her not wanting to help herself and at some points in life you gotta put yourself first. Just know that it gets better/easier and before you know it you will be enjoying life every day and not stuck in that shit cycle... Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
dave dub Posted October 11, 2010 Share Posted October 11, 2010 geez thanks for the support guys trying to keep my head up - music is my therapy so been listening, searching, listening, searching to keep my self a bit sane Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Pakage Posted October 11, 2010 Author Share Posted October 11, 2010 Stand tall bro, you've done the right thing imo Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
dr_weazel Posted October 22, 2010 Share Posted October 22, 2010 AAAAAAARRRGGGHHH!!!!!! Having to pretend I'm not from Auckland or tell people that I "escaped the asylum" when I moved out of Auckland just so they don't either completely write me off as a "fucking J.A.F.A" or start off on some bullshit redneck yokel rant about how shit Auckland is even though they've never been there! It's still the same country for fucks sake! At least I'm not a fucking Aussie or Pom!! Cantabrians - Most of them are really cool... just dont mention you're from Auckland. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Pakage Posted October 22, 2010 Author Share Posted October 22, 2010 if they think its bad you're an aucklander, for gods sake dont tell them you're dr_weazel Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
dr_weazel Posted October 22, 2010 Share Posted October 22, 2010 if they think its bad you're an aucklander, for gods sake dont tell them you're dr_weazel Damnit. I knew I needed to stop introducing myself by saying "Hi, I'm Dr_Weazel, the annoying internet troll" Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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